Nylon Relationships

17 Nov

With travel and communication becoming increasingly easy, as does the transatlantic dating scene. But is long distance really doable?

Of course I’m not talking about a love of a synthetic material, but the ever growing phenomenon that is the trans-Atlantic love affair. Well perhaps love affair comes later, but it all starts with dating amongst the successful international crowd inhabiting two of the world’s favourite cities, many of whom are completely comfortable with idea of a long distance relationship. The grass is often always seen as greener on the other side, and is it really a long distance when you can be there in about seven and a half hours and back in an hour less with a good tail wind behind your jet?

Many successful singles are already commuting between the two cities with their work, or looking to get to know colleagues on the other side of the pond even in on an unofficial work trip. Weekends away can be segued into a week in the New York or London office of your company. American’s are obsessed with all things Royal and love a British accent, our actors are stealing all the work in Hollywood. Likewise there’s something appealing about an American straight out of a Ralph Lauren catalogue that’s hugely appealing. Variety is the spice of life, so why not go Trans-Atlantic in your search for love.

The odds don’t always seem particularly good when you look at the statistics on your own home turf. New York has an estimated 230,000 more single women than men, while the City of London has 155 men per 100 women. When it comes to professional matchmaking the statistics about how many men to women and vice versa in both cities becomes irrelevant. What a matchmaker is doing is the filtering and introducing you to attractive people who are actually looking for a relationship. You will be going on an actual real date not wasting an evening in a bar on the romance lottery carousel.

That’s the good news because these days in both cities men and women are often simultaneously dating more than one person. The experience doesn’t run deep emotionally, and presents the challenge of breaking through the casual dating barrier into something that is more of a committed relationship. You can invest an hour or more chatting to someone who takes your fancy who has no interest in a relationship, just a one night stand.

So what is the perspective from both sides? New Yorkers tend to see London as more gentle and refined and where social interaction is a little more formal and classy. It’s perceived as being very romantic, where you can escape to a manor house or Paris for the weekend. Londoners see New York as somewhere that is open and exciting, where it’s not unusual for strangers to strike up a conversation in a bar. The reality is that getting up and out of your usual stomping ground and into a new environment always does wonders for your social demeanour.

Matchmakers have reported a massive surge in the desire for introductions on both sides of the Atlantic and not just in their own city. The speed of travel and the fact that successful people in banking, fashion and marketing, tend to find a transfer or a work visa an easy hurdle, makes the possibility more alluring. There is also the appeal of the long distance relationship creating a natural break in proceedings allowing each to ponder on how they feel about things. The sense of longing and reunion can also put a different slant on things too. But let’s not get ahead of ourselves, this is about making the right introductions that can lead to something more permanent. When you find love, you make it work.

If you don’t want to land in either New York or London and take your chances amongst the thousands of other singles, then get a Matchmaker to professionally curate your romantic excursion into these unchartered waters. You won’t waste time, and you’ll meet people who really are of exceptional quality and not just playing games in the big metropolis. NYLON love stretches easily, try it on for size, you might like it.

If you want to take the next step towards finding your transatlantic life partner, or would like to discuss any other query with an expert please contact us directly here.

 

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by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation. Rachel also sits on the Board of Advisors for the Matchmaking Institute.More by this author