Busy, we’re all busy. Busy with work, home, gym, family, laundry, dry cleaning, shopping, walking the dog. Busy being mindful. Busy trying to meditate. Busy reading this article on LinkedIn. So busy in fact, that the very idea of taking time out to look for or contemplate having a partner, is just too much. I mean, if we did find them, where would they fit in to the agenda?
Cyber world is the solution I here you say, as in online dating? It’s right there on your mobile device or your laptop to be trawled through at any hour of the day or night, so it’s perfect right? In the United States there are 16,500,000 people on eHarmony and 23,575,000 on Match.com
Is your ideal partner in Cyber world and is that the answer when short on time? Let’s take a look at some on-line dating statistics. 71% believe in love at first site, which probably explains why a profile and a photo work. 49% of users say that physical characteristics are the most important factor for them in finding a relationship. 53% have dated more than one person simultaneously. The percentage of online sex offenders who use online dating to meet people is 10%, scary.
Many online dating profiles are riddled with lies. Most people embellish and approach their profile like a resume. After all, the idea is to sell yourself. But is it really you that you’re trying to promote or a version of you that you think people will be attracted to? Are the profile pictures recent, or ten years old? Why is it that when you do set up a date, you find yourself meeting someone who somehow seems like a facsimile of who you thought they might be?
So what do people lie about online? Men usually add an inch or two to their height. Both sexes fudge the numbers on their real age. Weight is another one where the numbers shift, this time downwards and income is another one that is often increased. What people do for a living is often a great work of fiction. What is the reality of their lifestyle? Are they a real life surfer or a couch surfer? Do they really seek self-realization through macramé?
Reality check in terms of your psychological state of mind, are you also ready for a lot of rejection? Being online and getting nowhere with it can really be a massive blow to your self-esteem and your self-worth.
It’s only cyber space right, so does it really matter? In the end it does if you’re serious about a truthful and honest relationship with a real person. So why is there now a massive and renewed interest in professional Matchmaking? Because it eliminates most of the problems we’ve talked about so far. Does the idea of having a Matchmaker seem a bit desperate or weird to you? Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.
The purpose of professional matchmaking is to have someone focused on you and doing all the leg work to get you set up and put you in the way of romance and life partner opportunities. So busy doesn’t come into it. Once you have vested the time in profiling yourself and who you think you would like to meet, you can then move to allocated time in your busy schedule for real dates with real people where there’s a genuine chance of something that’s going to work.
Get out of cyber space and get into the real world of professional matchmaking where honesty and truth reside alongside a networks of attractive, erudite and interesting people who are also looking for a relationship with substance and not just another profile swipe.