Can you find love through… a spreadsheet?

16 Feb


Are you in need of an epic romance, or are you still flying solo and hoping to fall truly madly deeply in love? Does a love song or a sonnet make your heart soar with expectation and the yearning for cupid’s arrow to hit you right this moment? Perhaps you’re more of a strategist and prefer method over madness when it comes to your search for love. Maybe the structured approach to analysing your dating prowess lies in the perfect order of an excel spreadsheet? We’ve done the math and 1+1 definitely does equal 2 when it comes to love. It’s when you add 1+1+1 or more that things start to get a little complicated. The question is; will a spreadsheet help you keep things in order? Paul McKenna believes that you can learn a lot from your dating patterns, desires, personality types, charisma and more from this approach.

This may indeed be an interesting exercise for the analytics amongst us and continues to pose the question of whether finding love is a science. However, do you really have time to work on a dating spreadsheet while juggling a career, a gym schedule, friends, family, and animals, not to mention all the digital appliances baying for your attention? Will you get the formulas right, or find yourself spinning on a pivot table trying to reconcile your romantic efforts? If you’re the smart professional, you will learn to delegate complexity to experts and concentrate on the high level aspects of your quest for love, like your appearance, personality, charisma, conversation skills and social manners. An expert matchmaker can give you tips in all of these areas, but mostly they will encourage you to bring your true, brilliant and fabulous self to the dating arena and leave the spreadsheets on your desktop in the office.

The psychological approach to finding a real match and true love is where the professional expertise comes into play with a reputable Matchmaker. Not to mention the fact that they have access to a bank of attractive, erudite people to match your social background, geographics, and interests. The great thing about a Matchmaker, is that they have a deep personal and professional interest in your dating and relationship success. They will see things in you that you won’t find in a spreadsheet, and perform the analytics on your behalf to get your formula right. Love is not a number but a meeting of minds and hearts. You can increase your chances of success when you are fast tracked to being introduced to people who are more likely to be compatible without have to navigate the minefield of a bar or a club. Or without you living in desperate hope that your friends might get it right when you’re invited to a lunch that they promise is not a “set up”. Aesthetics and visuals are definitely important to provide some spark, but you can fall in love with confidence, humour, kindness and sensibility. If you want to tabulate your dating life to date, look for a pattern of success or failure and remind yourself that the engagement of a psychology based Matchmaker can definitely start to add up.



by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation. Rachel also sits on the Board of Advisors for the Matchmaking Institute.More by this author

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