Are We A Couple?

20 Aug

5 Signs She Thinks You’re A Couple – by Rachel MacLynn for Askmen

Ask men Are We A Couple

Letting the world know that you are “a couple” can be one giant step for a man. But before you take that step, there are a few surefire signs to look out for in order to be 100% certain you’re as invested as you think. Surprisingly, men are more likely than women to introduce someone they’re dating to their friends after one month — and she may get the wrong impression if you introduce her to your inner circle and then don’t call her your girlfriend. So here are five ways to know you’re a couple before making any silly mistakes.

You Start Matching Up Schedules

There are a few basic social signs to look for that indicate if you are a couple even if you haven’t officially had that conversation yet. Making weekend plans is a clear sign. Before you may have been free and easy about your plans but now you are conferring with each other about next weekend or the one following in order to match up plans and schedules.

You Have ‘The Talk’

When you start to match up your schedules, it seems only natural that at some point you have the conversation about where your relationship is going. The basics might be that you talk about not seeing anyone else and that you are both agreeing that you are making this relationship a priority. The worst mistake you can make is to assume that this is the case only to be terribly disappointed or have your heart broken. Let’s face it; life is incredibly busy with everyone having to meet the demands of work and modern living. It takes a commitment for you to be in a relationship. What you absolutely don’t want to do is guess what is happening. So man up and choose the time and location to have this conversation privately and maturely; that way you can avoid hurting yourself or someone else.

You Post Facebook Photos Together

Then there is social media and in particular Facebook. At what point do you change your status to read “in a relationship”? If your Facebook profile page is a picture of the two of you, then you are telling the world that you are an item. Posting on each other’s walls is also a sign of public affection, but please think before you post. Have you ever had friends who are posting their affection for each other endlessly and you are wondering if they are actually 12 years old again? Sweet but somehow the postings become immature when they are constant and therefore begin to lose all genuine romantic impact. You want to avoid your love becoming “staged” rather than real in the cyber world; your friends will begin to talk!

You Meet Her Family

How about some of those milestone moments that say you are a couple? Like the first time you say “I’d like you to meet my girlfriend”. Of course there is that time that you say the “L” word — no not ‘lesbian’…Love! Going to a wedding together is a pretty emotional experience that also says to your wider circle of friends, ‘we are an item’. Then there ismeeting the family which can be tricky as family members say a lot about you and not everyone has the most functional and ideal home life.

You Fight

There is also the first really big fight, the full on no holds barred argument which can also be a real turning point in whether you are in this relationship for the long haul. Or how about when you stop being so agreeable with each other and actually feel comfortable saying “No, I don’t like that”?

Are you wondering how you can show your girl that she is the one?

Men tend to be really practical rather than purely emotive but that’s not to say men can’t demonstrate emotion! Demonstrating that you love someone can be shown by doing things for them like taking them to the airport or staying up to see them in from a late night at the office with a little something yummy for supper. Cleaning up or putting the laundry on might take some time, but little gestures can real make a difference to demonstrate that you love her and you are a couple.

Now let’s take a reality check on whether you are a couple or not. Some questions to ask yourself as follows:

1) Have you been on more than 4 dates?

2) Are you in their mobile phone?

3) Are you on each other’s Facebook?

4) Have you met her friends?

5) Are you getting calls other than late at night?

6) Are you holding hands?

If the answer is NO to all or any of the questions above, then you really are not a couple and probably not about to be a couple. It’s time to move on and focus your time and energy on finding a new woman to date where you can start to say YES to all of the above. After all, when it comes to being in love, we really want to be one part of a couple right?


by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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