Its a date, not a meeting

29 Jan

date not a meeting

By Martin Turner

Do you often approach a new date as you would a business meeting ? If you’re successful and looking for love, you’re likely to also be goal oriented and an objective achiever. In the workplace or with your own business you have gone from strength to strength outperforming others and setting the pace. As a result it’s also very possible that you are time poor, and spending time in bars doesn’t really cut it.

You’ll probably have taken a look at your life and seen that a partner would round out the picture beautifully. On the romantic front, you’ll probably also want to feel that wonderful heady feeling of falling in love too. Being a man or woman of action, you’ve taken the sensible step and seen that exclusive matchmaking is an intelligent way to approach this juncture in your life. You can afford it, and why not, it’s no longer taboo, and scores of very successful people around the world are handing over management of this delicate and personally important area of their life to experts like VIDA.

Exclusive matchmaking is the route to finding love and guaranteeing you a date with someone who actually has real potential for love.  This is where the comparison with your approach to everything else in your secular life needs to come to an abrupt halt. This wise counsel applies to both men and women, it’s a date! Not an interview. We spend so much time in career and business mode that therein lies the danger of turning the opportunity for love into a date that has become a friendly meeting. We have built ourselves over time into professional behaviourists. We trot out our various personas depending on the circumstances, but let’s get personal now especially as love is involved, and ask ourselves…who are we really? After all if we plan on wanting to spend the rest of our lives with someone, we better show up as the best and most real version of ourselves on that first date.

There is something refreshing and calming about being able to just be ourselves. So leave the meeting room and business lunch banter at home, and avoid the 50 questions interrogation where it belongs in the work environment. Laughter is the best relaxer and while I am not suggesting you arrive armed with a carefully composed one liner, smiling genuinely with your mouth and your eyes is a terrific start. Bring the best versions of yourself to the date and stop worrying about making the best impression, that way you’ll keep it real.

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Martin Turner has had a 25 year global career in events which resulted in the book Travel Secrets in 2010 and a new career in journalism and lecturing. A recent graduate of the American Academy of Dramatic Art, he has won his way into the heart of the VIDA team while zooming about the planet on new assignments and escapades.


by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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