Give with Imagination

07 Feb

Some people are clever at thinking of terrific gifts for other people, and others just don’t know where to begin. When it comes to love, it’s really about giving from the heart with imagination. What does that really mean? Spending to demonstrate your love is not an equation based on the amount. How you spend and on what says more about you really knowing the person and that's what will really touch them. At times of the year like Christmas, birthday’s and especially Valentine’s Day, there is a definite feeling of pressure around what to do.

Questions can be spinning through your mind of what strikes the right note of too much, too little, and how to be original. So, with Valentine’s Day this month, are you going to take the easy route of red roses and chocolates? Lady’s do you only receive and not think about giving? Can boy’s get flowers too? What really touches someone is when they receive a gift that really indicates that the person knows you. That takes all the pressure out of it. Would it be helpful if I gave you a couple of ideas that you can marinate on?

Let’s say you know the object of your affection is a real cinema lover? You like to go on dates to the movies together and have great discussions following about the plot and the characters? If you live in London a great gift would be a membership to Curzon Cinemas where with even basic membership you get advance warning of screenings and Q&A’s with famous Directors, Screenwriters and Actors. Or how about membership to British Film Institute with advance booking for the London Film Festival. Team a French movie with a dinner following at a French restaurant.

If you’re in New York you can do the same with the New York Times Film Club or the Film Society of the Lincoln Center. Now put the details in a film can and gift wrap, or a bunch of wild crazy flowers with some old film roll as a bow (a good florist can help you). It takes imagination, wit, care and effort to give a great gift, this works for both men and women.

You notice that your love always has a good book on the go, and you have not only talked favourite books but also authors, topics and how they love to hold a hard cover book not a paperback. Get the whole idea of how much do you observe and listen to the person you love and know what they would really appreciate knowing that you have put a great deal of thought into the gift you give them. So, a basic start on this might be an edition signed by the author themselves. Is this possible you ask? It is indeed if you do some leg work.

A great start in London is to visit Peter Harrington’s or Coles who have terrific cookbooks, or sporting autobiographies for the man or woman who loves the kitchen the great British bake off or is mad about sport. In New York the famous Strand Bookstore can often help, or Biblio will search the whole of the USA for that special book. Now add to that a little book of love poems, wrap in brown paper and tie with a single bud on the front. Epic, thoughtful, memorable.

Whatever you do this Valentine’s Day do it with heart, the one you love will love you even more.

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by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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