Love is an anchor in times of global Covid-19 crisis

19 Mar

Covid-19 is having a global impact on everybody’s life and at such times of global crisis, different personality and coping types become apparent. It is also a time that is best for assessing our interpersonal relationships.

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Covid-19 is having a global impact on everybody’s life. On the extreme side, some choose to be particularly prudent while others wish to carry on as usual, which is impossible as social life around them comes to a standstill. At such times of global crisis different personality and coping types become apparent. Paradoxically, it is also the time when disaster strikes that is best for assessing our interpersonal relationships, which should be stable enough to catch our fall like a safety net when we are at danger of falling ill or are in need of support. The luckiest amongst us are not only those who have accumulated enough food in their storage cupboards, who carry safety masks in their fancy handbags and all-so-important briefcases or pride themselves to be fit and healthy ‘survivor’ personalities. At mindful sight, the truly privileged are those who can count on a loving bond in their lives.

This reliable and loving bond is one of the most crucial protective factors during – and in the aftermath of – any traumatic life event or crisis. You are amongst the lucky if you do have such a someone by your side, someone who genuinely cares at times when bad comes to worse, someone who is always by your side irrespective of the challenges that need to be overcome, someone who will remain at your side when you fall ill, when you become reliant and the image of perfection can no longer be maintained. True love is not a commodity one can buy but the result of destiny, serendipity, or tailor-made values-based matchmaking that only sensitively trained psychological experts can deliver.

It is in times of crisis like Covoid-19 when we have to face reality and start to see clearly if the person next to us is merely a model like accessory, a wealthy spender, or a true soulmate to whom we are profoundly connected. When disaster strikes, this is the chance to strengthen our relationship by overcoming todays challenges together. In retrospect, it will become a memory that will glue us together. However, with a mis-fitting partner by your side, things will become more and more dramatic. As we are confined to our homes and cannot distract ourselves with outdoor activities or in vivo socialising only our technical devices remain as a source of distraction and mental escape. Limit your exposure to TV, smartphones and the like, to an hour in the morning and an hour at night and feel what it is like to spend value time with your partner at home by doing all the one-to-one things that our otherwise so busy lives seemingly forbid us to engage in. If you can appreciate and enjoy activities like mindful talking, silent cuddling and caressing without a turned-on TV in the background, maybe even playing board games or just looking at each other speechlessly you might be one of the blessed. If you start feeling bored doing these things you either have a partner who is only right for extravaganza or you would definitely profit from mindfulness partnership coaching.

But what about those who are single and do not have a partner at all but might be sitting alone at home not knowing what Corona might bring next?

Unfortunately, it is times like these which hit single personalities the hardest as they cannot escape the awareness of being single as is the case at Christmas and on Valentine‘s Day which, unlike Corona, only last for a very limited period of time.

Fortunately, the positive message is that this might be the right time for you to make the best of the worst by using this period of standstill in dedicating especially this time for your personal love search. Our psychological experts at Vida can work from anywhere in the world to find your perfect match by searching through their extensive offline database. It is this period of forced confinement that you can positively use to meet matches in mindfully arranged dates, meeting the person far off turbulent life, sitting at a physical distance of a few meters or by video but genuinely experiencing if there is an emotional closeness. Be one of those who will tell their grandchildren that paradoxically it was the global crisis of Corona which brought you together!

by Dr Alina Wilms

Dr Alina Wilms is CEO and Head Matchmaker at Vida’s Germany office. One of Germany’s most sought after psychologists (with extensive media presence), Alina has coached a plethora of high-profile personalities; helping businesspeople, politicians and even Olympic athletes attain psychological fortitude and a long-term positive attitude. In addition to holding an undergraduate degree, two Master’s Degrees and a PhD in Psychology, Alina also has a Master’s in Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy from Oxford University and is a chartered psychotherapist*. Alina’s international background spans Europe and Asia, giving her deep insight into a myriad of cultures. She is trilingual (German, English and French) and whilst her main focus is assisting German-speaking clients to find their compatible match, Alina works very closely with the team at Vida’s London and NYC offices to facilitate intercontinental and intercultural relationships. Alina has a natural ability to nurture personal growth in singletons and couples alike. Warm, sensitive and empathetic, Alina is the ideal individual to head up Vida Germany. *Lifelong member of the Oxford Union.More by this author

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