The search for love as an international gay singleton

18 Jun

For a gay man living a transient, jet-set lifestyle, creating – and maintaining – that close bond with another man can be real tricky, but certainly not impossible.

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At The Vida Consultancy, many of our gay clients are definitive globetrotters, each with an incredibly successful career. They travel the world, building bridges and networking in a plethora of countries and cultures. This kind of lifestyle can be amazing – the people you meet, the things you see, the experiences you have – but can also take its toll romantically. For single gay men living a transient, jet-set lifestyle, creating – and maintaining – that close bond with another man can be a real struggle.

One major consideration in dating for the international gay singleton is location. The question is not necessarily just where he is travelling to, but, from there, where he is then willing to travel to, in the name of romance and going on that oh-so-crucial first date. For some men, leaving their own city can be a hassle: they might be snowed under at work, running low on time – or, perhaps, just not of the opinion that they should have to travel beyond the city limits to find that special someone. Other men have more flexibility; for them, it may well be the case that love knows no borders, as it were. Indeed, here at Vida, it is not uncommon at all for a gay client to hop on a flight and travel beyond his country, his continent even, in order to meet that gentleman with whom he is sure he will feel that profound, deep connection.

Another legitimate concern comes afterwards. Suppose you meet your potential match and, lo and behold, he is perfect. He’s charming, intelligent, sensitive, good-looking – and, oh yeah, he lives on the other side of the world. What then? Long-distance relationships can create a void, emotionally as well as geographically. The greater the gap between you, in terms of both space and time, the greater the risk of the relationship fizzling out, no matter how powerful it is. Lack of support physically and emotionally; infrequent sex; loneliness: all of these are very real issues for the international gay singleton. But there is hope, absolutely there is. As matchmakers, we believe more than anything in the sheer power of love. If it is meant to be, then – trust us – it will be. Over the years, during which we have set up literally thousands of successful relationships, we have seen a huge number of our gay clients overcome improbable odds, in terms of distance, finances, relationship history and break-ups, to create – and maintain – a strong, long-lasting, international partnership with a man who may live many thousands of miles away. Take it from us – long-distance or not, an international romance is not doomed to failure.

But how to understand if connection is real, when you have never met your potential match? How does one know whether that instinctive attraction and chemistry is to be trusted? Well, this is where the guidance and services of a professional matchmaker prove to be utterly invaluable. At The Vida Consultancy, our clients are exceptional. Every gentleman comes with a unique and fascinating backstory, and is met in person, vetted and assessed in detail in one of our unique, bespoke compatibility profiling sessions to analyse not only his suitability for us full stop but also his potential compatibility with any one of our wonderful gay clients. If the two of them want to meet, we mediate the introduction – and, if they want us to, we help set up the date as well (a lot of fun has been had researching hot date spots in unknown cities all over the globe!). To do this, we utilise local knowledge from our huge network of scouts and consultants, dotted around every continent and each with a strong network of exceptional singletons themselves.

Matchmaking is a traditional practice; in some senses, the concept of setting up two complementary singletons who know you but who don’t know each other is as old as time. Matchmaking provides a warm, personable service; your personal matchmaker gets to know your wants, needs and long-term aspirations when it comes to romance. At The Vida Consultancy, we understand the trials and tribulations of being a gay man looking for that special someone – and are here to help.

If you’re a gay man and looking for love, why not get in touch and let us weave our matchmaking magic? At The Vida Consultancy, we boast an exclusive network of some of the world’s most exceptional gay men, all of them just waiting to meet that someone special. Give us a call today – find the man of your dreams tomorrow.

by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation. Rachel also sits on the Board of Advisors for the Matchmaking Institute.More by this author

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