If you are looking for your life partner, and not having much success; if you feel you’re meeting more duds then studs or if your online dating profile is attracting people that look more like your Great Aunt Mildred, than George Clooney – you could be getting a bit disheartened. At this point you may be wondering what can a fun, attractive and intelligent catch do to shake things up, and find the partner of your dreams? I did an interview for Global TV and when the host asked me for tips about increasing attraction and having more fun during the dating process I answered below…
1. Understand Who Men Are
If you’re looking for something long-term, your SOURCE is crucial. Many women go the wrong way to find out about the inner workings of the male psyche– women go to their female friends! Instead, start asking questions and having conversations with male co-workers, family members and friends about who men are and how they think. Would you study a map of Egypt if you’re planning to go to Paris? The great thing about guys, they’re straight shooters and will usually tell you exactly what they think.
2. Have Compassion For Men
Men are more in the dark about women than you may realize. How to steer a first date, relationship or create better communication tend to be areas most men think differently about, compared to us women. Women tend to be more driven by emotions, whereas men are more pragmatic; but they are open to some gentle guidance! Start steering men in the direction of what you need, want and desire. Instead of making them wrong for not getting it right, help them to get it right, encouraging and rewarding good behavior. Men might not know what you want, BUT are very keen to find out what will make you happy!
3. Ask For What You Want
Too many women assume men can read their minds – this is an increasing epidemic! TIP: Vocalise. Express your needs, and don’t presume a man will pick up on those teeny, tiny hints you’re dropping about that new restaurant you want to check out, for example. For more on this, see # 4.
4. Communicate Clearly
It is in women’s nature to be more capable of multi-tasking and operating on 16 different tracks all at the same time. The problem; most women tend to communicate in the same way (randomly). Skipping from one point to the next forces men to work very hard to decipher what you’re trying to say. They’re just not wired to receive random messages at the same time. In the words of Spock: “it’s just not logical, Captain.”
5. Heal Your Past
If you’ve had an online profile up for while and been putting yourself out there socially with little results, it’s time to step inside and go within. You’re like a radio frequency and men can pick up on whether you’re happy and healed OR a hurting Heidi. Hire a date coach, see a professional matchmaker, or attend that transformational workshop you’ve been considering all year.
6. Raise Your Standards
Wherever you place your standards, a man will always meet you there. If you keep lowering the bar on what you expect from a life partner or compromising your values, you’ll never experience true happiness in a relationship. Becoming a “Master Adapter”, twisting yourself into a pretzel to accommodate a man’s life and catering to his needs is not attractive behavior. Raise the bar – you are the PRIZE.
Are any of these resonating – or striking a nerve? If so, then that’s the place to focus and start shifting, there’s a life partner out there for everyone.
By Kim Sarrasin
Kim Sarrasin is known as the Queen of Hearts – and a force to be reckoned with. Through her private coaching programs, seminars and numerous media appearances, Kim has developed lightening fast methods to help you quickly connect with your soulmate. To get started and receive your FREE audio’s, visit www.attractyourking.com