Bachelor or matchmaking made in heaven?

22 Nov

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By Julia Atlasova

Matchmaking made in heaven or are you left running for the hills from the eternal bachelor?  Its no secret, that attracting a man is only half of the deal on the way to the true love and happy ever after. You’ve got to master your communication skills to be able to encourage a good catch to make it to the next step – becoming his partner.

Men are usually fast to get involved, but even faster to get cold feet and flee from a likelihood of chaining themselves to a relationship anchor. Nevertheless, don’t be put off by those ‘forever-young’ party boys, not all dates are like that. Keep your matchmaking radar honed and look for those who are ready to meet the one and only and perhaps settle down in a picturesque countryside with a fireplace and a bunch of kids, if that’s your thing.

Matchmaking  yourself can become an ordeal as many decent men are already taken and we are left to work with those, who appreciate their freedom dearly. Such men are typically smooth and enchanting, but they test their dates on a bride-to-be readiness and escape the minute they sense danger. They are time wasters and you are trying to hunt out that little gem in a batch of dull pebbles.

First thing to remember: issues that other people have are not your fault, so stop blaming yourself and think about your approach to dating. Make sure you don’t talk too much about yourself and listen to what he’s got to say. Don’t turn it into an interrogation though, be careful HOW you ask your questions and instead of spitting out “are you ready to settle down?” ask about his close friends and how many of those are in happy marriages. In no time you will know if your bachelor man  is ready for the love adventure, likewise you will learn his real attitude to marriage, kids, friends’ spouses and more.

Be clever and intuitive in your matchmaking! Let nature work for you and enjoy the harvest of essential knowledge as a tool to the happy future with your Life Partner.

It is without a doubt fundamental to understand your potential partner at the very beginning of the matchmaking experience and eliminate those who enjoy their bachelor lives and are not willing to settle down, ever. Those men are remarkably full of tricks and pleasures, which become repetitive and tend not to last as they target to satisfy your romantic expectations of love only.

Mr Right has a caring and thoughtful approach and it might seem a fraction unclear at the beginning, but this partner will definitely make you happy in the long term.

Julia Atlasova

Julia is a Siberian born snowboarder, freelance journalist and a military psychologist who is unconditionally and unconsciously in love with St. Petersburg and settled in fabulous London. A free spirit wandering around the world wondering whether people exist in the illusion of love or love hides in a sacred corner of every heart waiting for the right time to let us live.


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