Handbag.com May 2014 – How to survive a wedding when you’re single

19 May

Weddin singles -handbag

DON’T BE ASHAMED OF BEING SINGLE – Rachel says being single is nothing to be ashamed about: “A lot of people there will be viewing you as the exciting singleton.After years of marriage and childcare you’ll be amazed how alluring the idea of the ‘young and free’ single life is. Enjoy the excitement and see yourself through their eyes for the night!”

PUT OTHER WOMEN AT EASE – You know that Sex And The City episode where Samantha gets snubbed by a jealous wife at a party? There are ways to avoid that. “If you’re chatting and a wife or girlfriend approaches, just make the comment, ‘Oh your husband was just telling me how he could introduce me to all his single friends’. It will put her at ease instantly,” says Rachel.

DON’T GET TOO DRUNK – Bit of an obvious one, but not remembering what went down the night before never did anyone any favours:”If you remember the adage “leave them wanting more” you’ll minimise chances of embarrassing yourself and overstaying your welcome.”

DON’T BE A SORE LOSER – Sadly being place on the singles table is a very real possibility. But being a sore loser just won’t help.”Make peace with that before you go so it’s not a surprise and you show only grace and good humour on the day. Enjoy yourself by building rapport with the rest of the table, who knows they may pleasantly surprise you!” recommends Rachel.

MAKE NEW FRIENDS – Sure, weddings are great to meet men, but they’re also great for making new friends.”During the ceremony be observant, make a mental note of any men (or other single women!) that are sat on their own or have joined another couple on a pew – chances are they’re feeling just like you. After the service you can strategically position yourself to end up chatting to them,” she says.

DRESS TO IMPRESS – Obviously a wedding is a great excuse to buy a new dress. Rachel confides: “If you feel great you will look great and therefore you will ooze confidence. One of the joys of being single is that you get to treat yourself without having to ‘check in’ with the other half of your joint bank account. Never forget there are perks to being single!”

CHAT TO FAMILY MEMBERS – And finally, get in with the family: “If you get stuck in any awkward moments with no one to talk to look out for the grandparents – it’s a great way of being involved in neutral and easy conversation and everyone likes the person who makes an effort with grandparents and kids at the wedding!”


by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

LinkedIn | The British Psychological Society |