Resolved to keep the resolution

28 Dec

It’s December 28th and you’re contemplating your news years outfit, but that third mince pie, and the midnight turkey and stuffing sandwich are making themselves evident. If you’re clothes have stretch marks, you’re dreading going back to work, and you’re still single, it’s time for a change in 2018. Let’s face it, we all feel the sense to some degree of a new year looming that brings the big life questions into focus.

Who will I be this time next year? Will I be 15lbs lighter? Will I have gotten my promotion or finally started my new business? Will I look and feel fabulous and most importantly feel a sense of excitement about New Year’s Eve because I have someone I really adore to kiss at midnight. We’re surrounded by pressure and stress all the time to be something, accomplish something all the time. Now that we’re all semi famous in social media space, what does our feed say about where we’re going?

Perhaps there was something to be learned from the tortoise and the hare about slow and steady wins the race. The burning question really is, do our new year’s resolutions actually place us under too much pressure which naturally causes us to abandon them? Is 2018 the year in which you can be kinder to yourself, and make one of your resolutions being comfortable about asking for help?

While most people don’t publicise their new year resolutions, many adults do but fewer than 10% actually keep them for more than two or three months. Very often it is something psychological about behavioural addictions or bad habits that are routine or habitual. The reason why people cannot stick to them is that the expectation they place on themselves is unrealistic because they’re looking for immediate results. Maybe we see some of our habits or lifestyle choices being an inhibitor to finding love and a meaningful relationship. At Vida we are all about the psychology of relationships, and with that in mind, a couple of tips about resolutions that might keep you on track.

One is asking a friend to help you achieve one of your goals like health and fitness. Pairing up and motivating each other to get to that gym class can work wonders. If you realise you have not been getting quality time with a good friend, how about a long power walk once or twice a week when you can catch up and burn calories at the same time. Meet for a healthy brunch following your power walk instead of planning to convene at the pub to down a couple of bottles of wine.

SMART the acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound, can work beautifully for resolutions. Don’t overload yourself with goals, be specific. Make sure you have a way of measuring your success and reward yourself for reaching milestones. Think about whether your resolution is really achievable or are you setting your expectations too high? Be realistic, and give yourself time.

If your New Year resolutions relate to goals that make you feel better about yourself mentally and physically, then if you’re single, they will create an aura of positivity around you for 2018. Don’t be afraid to ask for help with your love life. The team at Vida are as dedicated and focused on you achieving your goals and resolutions about your love life as you are. Together, realistically you can create a plan for you to achieve what you want romantically in the year ahead.

Make it your goal this time around to have your resolutions really stick. Your year is going to be amazing, you’re going to be fantastic, and someone is going to fall madly in love with you.
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by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida MacLynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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